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Let's turn your knowing into experiencing.
Welcome.You are an Intimacy Artist.
What will you co-create?
From the outside, your life looks pretty good — maybe even great. You show up. You're capable. People like you.
And yet in your most private moments — the ones you want to feel most connected in, like when having an important conversation, or when sharing touch with your lover — you notice you're slightly... in your head.
Not fully in it. Not fully yourself.
You're not bad at relationships. You're actually pretty good at them — on the surface. You're thoughtful. You care. You try. And somewhere underneath all of that trying is an exhaustion you don't really talk about — the exhaustion of working so hard at connection and still feeling like you're slightly missing it. Like there's a depth of connection available that you keep almost touching.
Maybe it shows up as shutting down when things get charged. Not knowing how to ask for what you want. Going along, keeping the peace, then quietly resenting it. Touching and being touched but feeling... disconnected.
Maybe you've tried to understand it. Read the books. Done the therapy. Sat in the workshops. You can talk about your patterns.
But still — something keeps escaping you.
You've started to wonder if this is just... how it is for you.
It isn't.
And somewhere in you, you already know — more is available. More presence. More pleasure. More depth. More vitality.
More of that turned-on, fully-alive feeling you get glimpses of and can't quite seem to stay in, YET.
In a sexless marriage for 36 years. Now, more excited than ever for the adventures ahead!
"When we returned home from our session, the first question our daughters asked was: 'What did you do? Mom is glowing!' Now, in our midlife, we feel our most alive as if we were 20 again. I felt I had tried everything and almost gave up, believing my wife was asexual. I'm forever grateful to Marilys for guiding us towards a life we could have never imagined in our wildest dreams."
— Dan (& Wendy)
Done with people-pleasing. No more hiding in shame. More connected than ever.
"Marilys supported me with revealing things I had never shared with anyone because of shame. Then we alchemize that shame. I also shifted from people-pleasing and co-dependency to interdependency and I feel so much more free and empowered even though I thought I was before.I now feel more myself and more connected to my husband than ever, after 17 years of marriage!"
— Natalie
After years of therapy, then a divorce, what I accomplished within a couple months of working with Marilys is beyond what I ever believed possible for myself.
=======After years of therapy then a divorce, what I accomplished within a couple months of working with Marilys is beyond what I ever believed possible for myself.
>>>>>>> 1d2d7c26a31465dbc07ab79b523089281a6d58b1"I now know what I want and express it with my head held high, making eye contact. I feel much more confident in my touch, my self-control, being present with a partner — a complete 180. I have done a lot of therapy in my life, and in terms of experiential growth in such a short period of time, working with Marilys has been nothing short of miraculous."
— David
I'm Marilys
Somatic Intimacy & Relating Coach
Erotic Aliveness Guide · Bodyworker
People ask me what I do and I never quite give the same answer — because what happens through this work simply cannot be put in a box.
Sometimes I'm supporting someone to finally feel at home in their own body. Sometimes I'm with a couple learning how to touch each other differently — not perform, not manage, but genuinely meet. Sometimes we're working through a trigger that's been hijacking intimacy for years, or finding language for a desire that's never been spoken out loud, or understanding the energetics of what makes connection feel generative and compounding versus effortful and draining.
What I know — and what most people in this space won't say directly — is that intimacy isn't a department of your life. It's the frequency your whole life runs on. When it's blocked, everything feels slightly muted — your energy, your creativity, your aliveness, your sense of self. When it opens? Everything compounds. You don't just have better relationships. You radiate. You feel connected to life itself.
That's what this work is about.
I work with a small number of clients at a time — individuals and couples who feel the call to go deeper than they've gone before. My approach is somatic, holistic, and trauma-informed — which means we work with your whole system, not just your mind.
If you've found your way here, something in you already knows it's time.
I trust that.
It begins with a genuine conversationYour Body. Your Pleasure.
De-armoring. Nervous system rewiring. Sensuality practices & full body pleasure. Ejaculatory choice. Un-shaming. Orgasmic anatomy & touch. Reconnecting to your body's natural intelligence and capacity for pleasure — which is much greater than most have been led to believe.
What You're Longing For
Knowing what you want. Finding the language for it. Asking in ways that land. Receiving and giving wholeheartedly. Moving through the world with the quiet confidence of someone who knows their own desires and trusts them.
The Relationships You're Here For
Navigate conflict to deepen in trust & strengthen your foundation. Reigniting the spark and polarity. Communication that brings you closer. Touch that connects. Agreements, rituals, and the subtle architecture that brings aliveness and emotional safety for your relationship to thrive.
What Keeps Running the Show
Triggers. People-pleasing. Emotional repression or shutdown. The disempowering dynamics that keep showing up >no matter how much you understand them. We don't just talk about these — we work with them somatically, so that tangibles shifts integrate in your body and in your life.
Work with me
Private Clients
Are You One?
If something in you feels a yes...
We begins with a genuine, heart ot heart, conversation.
I'll open with a short somatic practice — to connect not just with your head but also with your body. From there, we go into your world — what you're experiencing, your longings and desires, what might be underneath what you're saying, and what becomes possible from here.
You'll leave with something concrete.
If we both feel aligned to working together, we'll end the conversation with exploring what working together will look and feel like.
Investment: $150 · applied toward your package
This isn't for everyone. It's for the ones who are done talking about it, ready to shift.
Request Your ConsultationOne session. New depth in our connection unlocked.
"Marilys perfectly understood how to help us find deeper connection through tantric practices, touch and emotional intimacy. Her intuition was spot on. It's not only that it was an incredible experience: intimate, sensual and we both felt so safe to open and be vulnerable. But even after one session, we left inspired and with a lot to play with at home."
— Julie & Steven R.
Came to improve my partnership. All of my relationships improved amazingly.
"I was hoping to improve my intimate relationships. What I gained transformed every area of my life. What impressed me most was Marilys' ability to make something challenging feel comfortable, engaging, even enjoyable. I feel far more equipped to handle conflict without shutting down, reacting, or losing myself."
— Martin
I didn't know this much could shift this fast.
"I feel more excited about my life, more aware of my energy. Marilys understood in a second when we touched trauma and we were able to work through it together. There was a meditative quality, psychological quality and a quality of connection that's hard to find."
— Muireann
Done with the mask. Done performing connection.
"I realized I was withholding so much from the people I love most and that was not serving my relationships. Marilys helped me work through fear and learn how to say the important things — creating so much more love, intimacy, and connection. My confidence skyrocketed. She has changed my life."
— Kay
FAQ
Most approaches — even good ones — work primarily with the mind. They help you understand — and that's valuable. But changing the pattern, integrating a new way of being, often requires a more holistic approach.
The work I do goes where most practitioners can't or won't. I blend somatic bodywork, touch, energy work, and direct coaching on sexuality and intimacy in a way that very few people are trained to hold. I've facilitated workshops for therapists and coaches. My approach meets you on all levels: the nervous system, the erotic, the relational, the energetic — not from one modality but from years of deep training across all of them.
And honestly? I actually care. Not in a professional-distance way. In a I-will-stay-with-you-until-something-real-shifts way. For some, that's what makes working with me most different. Many also enjoy that side of me that somehow makes even the most challenging thing feel lighter.
One of my mentors says: the reason you feel you can't is typically the exact reason you should.
The busyness and feeling of not having enough — time, energy, presence — is often a symptom of a deeper pattern. When intimacy is blocked, everything feels more effortful. More draining. More like going through the motions.
But also, if you're not sure, it simply might not be important enough for you, yet.
This work is about opening you up to more. More energy. More ease. More connection. More of yourself available for what matters. My clients find they spend less time in their heads, triggered, worrying, recovering from arguments, performing okayness — and have more time to enjoy their lives.
The question isn't whether you have time for this. It's whether you can afford to keep waiting.
Yes. Absolutely.
Some of the most profound transformations I've witnessed have been with individuals working alone. When you shift, the dynamic shifts. When you stop waiting for your partner to change and start showing up differently yourself — everything around you changes.
In my experience, when partners start feeling the impact of this work, they'll naturally get curious and inspired to join. If they do — they absolutely can join later.
Either way, you'll experience powerful shifts.
Working together is a four to five-figure investment for a minimum three month commitment, with most clients continuing beyond that as the work deepens. I typically see clients weekly or bi-weekly. Each package is specifically tailored based on our initial conversation.
If you're here, something is still calling you forward. This is the work that addresses the root, not just the symptoms. That's what makes the shifts last.
I have never had a client commit to this work and walk away without transformation. Not once.
Not because I'm magic (though I am! ;)) — but because transformation is proportional to commitment. While I'm your guide and space holder, what becomes possible is a direct reflection of how much you're willing to show up, feel, and integrate.
That's also why we begin with a conversation. To ensure genuine alignment.
I don't need clients. But I love working with the right clients — people who are ready to commit to taking brave actions and finally experience what they say they want, what lights them up, what they sense is possible for them.
If I don't sense that readiness, I'll tell you. If we commit to working together and you truly show up for it, I'll be here with you until you feel the shift.
The only thing that doesn't work is to have one foot in, one foot out.